Introduction

Introduction

By the end of the 19th century, in every corner of the world, blows began to be struck against the old values. This even took the form of wars. We link wars to political causes, but it is not impossible that cultures and values were the main factor at the root of the wars. We say that countries were conquered for economic aims, yet once the economic aims were achieved, the colonial policy did not stop — it intruded upon the mentality and customs of peoples, their beliefs and views, and this was carried out in stages: the invader brought to these countries cutthroats and fugitives from the gallows of his own land; this phenomenon was observed in almost all the colonies; then those cutthroats lived here freely and at ease according to their own “culture”; they promoted this “culture” — drinking, indecency and other kinds of pleasure-seeking stood at the center of this “culture.” The spiritually weaker members of the local peoples followed the invaders’ “culture,” but they did not stop there: they fought against their own values and set about promoting the alien “culture,” for the demands of their masters and the very nature of betrayal required it. The first attack began with the family: children began to rebel against their parents and to stop obeying them; this is reflected even in mature works of literature — for example, in some works the main heroes pay no regard at all to their fathers: they marry without the father’s permission or advice; they constantly answer the father back and blame him; and the mother they disregard entirely, even supposedly “marrying for the sake of the parents’ consent,” and so on — in this way, in the minds of the colonized peoples the worth of parents was trampled, and children rushed headlong into a stage where they do not follow their parents’ guidance and blame them. At the same time, the woman — who is the support of the family, regarded as the foundation of the family, called the heart of the family — was torn away from fulfilling her highest duty in the family: the work of motherhood. That is, the work of society was laid upon her: she was taken out to the fields, put to work in factories, seated on tractors, and so on; and thus the children, once deprived of their nurturer, were handed over to nurseries and kindergartens; the toddlers taking their first steps in kindergartens grew up without affection for their parents and forgot what the family’s values were — obedience and respect for the father, reverence for the mother; striving to build their lives by themselves, they followed their desires and went off in the direction opposite to the goal. They became people who seek comfort not in the family, which is the solace of the heart and the flower garden of life, but in the streets and in what is unlawful and foul. They too started families, but they lacked the knowledge of how to preserve a family, the classical ethics between husband and wife, and practical knowledge of raising children; their children too grew up in nurseries and then in schools, and they drifted even further from their parents; they obeyed their parents even less and became rebellious, they began to search for a new model of life for themselves; in them obedience to those older than themselves was vanishing altogether. Now the conflict between parents and children grew stronger. This generation too started families, but their offspring were left in an even worse state than themselves: they regarded their parents only as providers, and the parents too thought of themselves that way; now children came to disregard their parents; the parents’ advice and scolding became a burden to the children; they reached the point of turning away from their parents without hesitation; and the parents, out of their natural love, so as not to lose their children, began to plead with them and speak to them sweetly; little by little, not being strict with children, raising them without prohibitions, bringing them up without shouting became a “culture,” a “value,” promoted knowingly or unknowingly; in the family the child began to grow up thinking, “I am the one on top,” and so began the age in which parents turn into the slaves and servants of their children.

Today we are in that very age; today we treat our children as masters and serve them as slaves; today we have lost the answer to the question of what a family should be, and we want to model the family by listening to the chatter of those whose knowledge is not complete; but we are in a dead end: because we ourselves did not grow up seeing the classical and complete model of the family, we cannot put it into practice; and, as has been said, a very large part of what is said about the family is utterly wrong; now, today, we are compelled to mobilize all our strength to restoring the classical family, otherwise the situation will become unimaginably grave. Now we will talk about this, with your duas...

The Introduction is finished.

Akrom MALIK